Wedding Preps at 14Four Cafe

One of the most tedious part of wedding planning is getting your entourage together and finding common time.

We all know that for working parents, or for anyone working, weekends are rare and precious. That is why I am so thankful that I have friends who are very supportive and committed to our wedding. All of my bridesmaids are from the south and I appreciate that they sacrifice their Sunday mornings to drive all the way to the east for our dress meetings.Thank you as well to the supportive husbands!

Since our schedules rarely meet, we also make use of  the wedding prep meetings to catch up. This is actually one of the things I miss.

Here we are before our first meeting with Ryan Sarangay, our couturier for the wedding. Rye took the photo. Haha.

(I will blog about the actual meeting in a separate post. :P)

I've always wanted to go to 14Four Cafe. So when I found out that this is just a few meters away from Ryan Sarangay's shop, I decided to have our first Bridesmaid Dress meeting here.

I wanted a spacious area as well because we have kids with us, and 14Four Cafe was the perfect place. While the ladies are busy with the dress meeting and measurements, the guys can keep the kids busy.

14Four Cafe, of course, is also a perfect venue for photo shoots. Hence, these.

Meet the Family

Thanks to Google Photos and Facebook Memories, I was reminded that a year ago, this happened.

In the Philippines, we usually have a custom called Pamamanhikan after getting engaged. This comes from the work Panik or Panhik, which means "to climb". This is because traditional Filipino houses usually have stairs before you can actually come in to the house. If you are not welcome, the family or the home owners can just pull up the ladder and you can't climb up the house. Pamamanhikan is like an act of a coming in officially to the family or into the household. In terms of marriage, this is when the guy, together with his parents, formally asks the parents of the lady's hand in marriage and talk about the details of the wedding.

But that is not what happened here. In our case, we just had lunch and got the families acquainted since our parents knew each other but haven't got the chance to actually talk.

Tip to young couples: get your families acquainted early in your relationship. Invite them to get involved with your relationship. Not only this spares you from a nerve wrecking and awkward Pamamanhikan but this actually increases possibility of you two ending up together. Now if you can't imagine introducing your boyfriend or girlfriend to your family, think of why you are together and if it worth it.

This family lunch marks the official start of our wedding planning.

The Promise

Today is the first day of July and today marks the first day of the second half of 2017. Can you believe it?! In a few days, Ry and I will already be 6 months married, but we are still swooning from how awesome our wedding was.

To be honest, I always get kilig whenever someone says they enjoyed our wedding. Because modesty aside, we really did our best to make it a memorable one. Compliments are affirmations that we did well.

They say weddings should be all about the bride and groom. This is true, of course. But for Rye and I, it's always been about giving back to our family and friends who stood with us in our journey to that day, and most importantly, it is all about sharing how God has been faithful in our lives.

When we started planning the wedding, we thought of keeping it small and intimate. But the wedding is also a once in a lifetime opportunity for us to gather our friends and family and have them hear how God has worked in our relationship. We want everyone to know how God wrote our love story, not just a handful of people. But with a limited budget, a small gathering is really the best option.

Later, we realized that we are just being practical but not really in faith. Well, mostly me. Because I am a doubter. I was afraid that God will not really follow through with our prayers and provision would be cut short. Looking at our bank account and the projected expenses, I knew we won't make it without divine intervention.

But then, God gave us this promise, and this has become the anchor of how we prepared for our wedding.

14 When I think of all this, I fall to my knees and pray to the Father,[e]15 the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth.[f] 16 I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. 17 Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. 18 And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. 19 May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.
20 Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.21 Glory to him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations forever and ever! Amen.
Ephesians 3

I still feel my heart my burn when I read these verses. I cannot believe God gave us this promise for our wedding. It couldn't be more clear for me, but still it is unimaginable. Let me try to break this down, because our hope is really to relay the message through our wedding.

My Father in heaven, the creator of everything, who owns everything, has unlimited resources. He will provide, not only for our finances but also the power, strength and the faith to trust in Him and not doubt. Through out the wedding planning, God wants me trust him and wait for him to see me through. As I trust Him, he will be able to prove to me that He is true and that He is a Father who I can trust. He will make his home in my heart as I trust him. As I trust him, and as I see that He is a Father who fulfills his promises, my roots will grow. I will get to know my Father in heaven better. I will be stronger, and this wedding will be something that I would look back when times are tough. The wedding and the planning is a venue for us to experience God. What's great is that this is just the tip of the iceberg. God's love for me is more than answered prayers and financial provision. It is too great to understand fully.

In verse 20, which is posted in almost everything at our wedding, is God's ultimate promise for me to not be afraid to dream and hope because He is infinite. You may not know, but I don't like keeping my expectations high and keeping my hopes up because I am afraid of being disappointed. But here, God is telling me that He is the one who will take care of everything, so I can dream all I want and He will be the one who will accomplish them.

An intimate wedding and small wedding was the practical option but see, the wedding and the planning itself is a spiritual and very personal journey for Rye and I, but for me specially.

Thank You

Hello our dearest friends and family!

We are very sorry it took us this long to thank you all through this blog. It's already two months since we said "I do", but it really feels like yesterday. :)

They say a wedding is just one day, but this is the day we will always look back toWhen times our tough, we will look back to this day and remember how much joy we had to see everyone we love gather for us. When things don't go our way, we will look back to this day and remember how God see through this day for us and how He keeps his promises. When we doubt, we will look back to this day and remember how faithful God is and how good God is. Our prayer is that experienced God in the same way we got to know him through our wedding day.

Thank you so much again for celebrating with us -- for those who came and for those who wasn't able to come but have sent all their love. Thank you sooooo much!

To our Ninong and Ninangs, I hope you know how much we appreciate you. Pastor Earl said it right, when he said that we have chosen each one of you because of your impact in our life. Your life has touched ours in different ways and we are what we are now because of that. We are a bit late in our thank you gift, but it is on the way! :)

To our lovely entourage -- truly the wedding party! Thank you for bringing so much fun to our special day. Your smiles, your energy, and your encouragements that day are priceless.

And of course, to our wedding crew. Thank you so much! We got so much compliment from how we did our wedding, and we know that we couldn't have done it without you. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!

And so, to end this post, our wonderful SDE from 430 Films.

Rye and Sarah Same Day Edit from Four Thirty Films on Vimeo.

We got out invites!

Time to get to work.

Thank you so much, Aica of MC-1 Enterprises for our hassle free transactions.

We are so blessed to have these heaven-sent suppliers!

Sarah and Rye

Hello everyone!

Excited to share with you some prenup photos. I finally got to become a Diosa. Haha.

Engagement Shoot teaser by Jayson and Jo Anne Arquiza

Woohoo! We got so kilig that Jayson and Jo Anne Arquiza featured our photo on their FB page.

Thank you so  much!!!

A little back story on that caption:
Jayson and Jo Anne Arquiza became like the official photographer of our friends from Smart. At least 8 couples form our circle have booked them for our wedding and later their children's parties (as Purple Kite Studios). At first it was just coincidence, but eventually it became the a natural and wise decision. It was a no-brainer for us to decide who will be our wedding photographer. Why settle for less, right? :)

Can't wait for the rest of the photos!